When we are first born, our parents are all we have in this world. We wouldn’t be where we are today without them. Our parents are the ones we look to for support and guidance. They have to keep us safe at all times and make sure the kids are following our rules. However, we humans are all capable of making mistakes.
Everything parents do and how they do it becomes an integral part of their child’s psychology. How you talk to your children becomes their inner voice.
It tells them what is right and what is wrong. As children, we don’t think of our parents as “just people,” we see them as more than that.
These people we call mom and dad are our creators, guardians, and protectors. In the eyes of us children, they are gods and goddesses; There’s nothing mom and dad can’t do.
If you are constantly angry and cold with your children, they will continue to do so when they are adults. What you do to them, they will do to themselves later. We all make mistakes, if you are making mistakes now, why not take the time to correct them?
We want our children to have an inner voice that doesn’t bully them. If you are friendly and encouraging with your child, they will accept this as their inner voice; This will prove to be far more effective than having an inner voice that seems worthless to them.
The phrases below are words you should NEVER say to your children, no matter how angry you are or what they have done.
- “STOP CRYING RIGHT NOW!”
Even if your baby has no reason to cry at that time, don’t be fooled into thinking you can’t stop crying.
They can’t control their emotions, and if you tell your child that, you’re programming them to think they can’t have emotions. They will eventually overwhelm everything. In such a situation, you should try to say something else.
Like, “It’s okay to cry, but you have to understand what you’ve done wrong.”
It will get you further.
- “I’M OUT FOR YOU!”
It’s the worst thing a parent can say to their kids when they’re in trouble and upset about themselves and everything they’ve done. Help your child find the right path without feeling like it’s a disappointment if they do something wrong.
“What you did was wrong, let’s talk about it okay?”
- “YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH OF [SOMETHING]!”
Telling your child that he is missing something, it hurts inside or out. Even though you don’t specifically say that they are inadequate, you are implying that they are. If you don’t get rid of it quickly, it will make your child feel inadequate in life. Say, “You’re good enough, we can work harder on it.”